High Octane Marriage
EXPERIENCE THE POWER OF GOD’S DESIGN
I remember the first time I laid eyes on an Audi TT convertible sports car. I almost got into an accident because I couldn’t stop looking at it. I turned around and chased it just to get a longer look. It just looked fast and fun! I thought we would probably get along great.
There is nothing that can match a beautiful design. A beautiful design is a piece of art. In fact, the Audi TT is one of the only cars ever displayed at the Guggenheim Museum in New York for timeless design. A true beauty.
Anyone who knows me well knows I like fast and I like fun. I like high performance. I like power. I like motorcycles and Porsches. (I’ve never had a Porsche but I like them.) I like really cold beer and basketball. I also like football, baseball, tennis, and golf. I like playing just about anything on a team, with a group of guys who just want to go for it—full on. I like roller coasters and adrenaline and the exhilaration of letting go. That’s my design.
All aspects of God’s creation have an original design—nature, people, even marriages (yes, marriages!). God’s original design is the TRUTH about His creation. I find, more often than not, that when people are experiencing crisis—or even simply tension—in their marriage, that the source of the crisis or tension can be traced not to a circumstance, but to an area of thinking/behaving that is out of alignment with God’s truth.Like great mechanics, Danny and Amy not only give a helpful, biblical diagnostic for a healthy marriage, but also outline a number of practical exercises to tune up your relationship., Vice President/Chief Catalyst, World VisionDanny and Amy DeWalt take you on a fastpaced and hard-hitting journey beyond the expected behaviors and practices for a good marriage., Pastor, Author of “Living Free”, Founder of The Sycamore CommissionDanny and Amy have nailed it in a vulnerable, insightful, and no-seatbelts book which poses the question for each of our marriages: “Why not red-line it?”, Speaker, Author of “Love Does”, Founder of Restore International
I have spent a number of years as marriage and family counselor, pastor, and attorney. I have counseled numerous couples who have come to me with their marriages in crisis. They invariably walk into my office or living room complaining about finances, fighting, parenting conflicts, sexual problems, pornography, infidelity, or any other number of tensions. What I always tell them is this: THOSE ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. (That usually gets their attention quickly: “What do you mean, those aren’t the problem?!?”)
Let me repeat myself. Those issues are not the problem in a marriage. They are only symptoms of the problem. The real problem is that, down deep, we do not know—and are not living out—God’s original design for us. We do not know the Truth about ourselves, or about each other. So we respond to life’s hurts and challenges—and to each other—out of human reactions that help us cope and comfort our fears, pains, and insecurities.
Really, the only way to true, lasting transformation is to:
- expose the untruth at the root of the tension
- repent of believing (and acting out) a violation of God’s truth and character
- identify God’s truth and original design for the situation
- intentionally get into alignment (or agreement) with God’s truth and design, and live in it
Do you know God’s original design for you? For your spouse? For your marriage? We’d love to share the truths from God’s Word that have transformed our marriage and scores of others. We’d love to serve you in strengthening your marriage and making it the high octane ride it was designed to be! Check out our calendar for the next event or contact us to arrange for a conference at your church.
Danny and Amy are not going green on this one. This is not a book about how to economize in your marriage. It’s about laying down some rubber, spinning the wheels, and getting somewhere that Jesus said is worth going together. This book is not for moped riders either. It’s not about peddling harder by yourself with a little help from an underpowered engine. Instead, you are invited to the flat tracks to see what a marriage guided by biblical principles can really do. Danny and Amy have nailed it in a vulnerable, insightful, and no-seatbelts book which poses the question for each of our marriages: “Why not red-line it?”, President and Founder, Restore InternationalAnother “marriage book”?! Yes and no. Yes, a book on marriage, but no, not just “another” book on marriage. In it, Danny and Amy DeWalt take you on a fastpaced and hard-hitting journey beyond the expected behaviors and practices for a good marriage. With deep integrity from Danny and Amy’s own personal story of marital redemption, this book exposes what lies underneath the battles that attack marriages and shows how your marriage can flourish in God’s original design and freedom. I promise that if you engage honestly at the heart level through his book . . . well, just do it and see what happens. I highly recommend Danny and Amy and this book to you!, DMin, Pastor, Author of Living Free, and Founder of The Sycamore CommissionLike great mechanics, Danny and Amy not only give a helpful, biblical diagnostic for a healthy marriage, but also outline a number of practical exercises to tune up your relationship. Full of practical advice and story, this book gets to the heart of the matter of what makes unified relationships last. If you are in need of a nononsense manual as to how great relationships function and a step-by-step guide to helping you get there, getting this book would be a solid investment!, Vice President/Chief Catalyst, World VisionAnyone who wants to reignite, strengthen, or save their marriage needs to read andengage in High Octane Marriage. My wife Jane and I have walked with Dannyand Amy for the last 20 years. We have seen them live this book and teach others how to live it as well, us included. High Octane Marriage will take you down a road that may challenge and push you beyond your comfort level, but if you stay on it, the result will be unity with your spouse you never dreamed possible., President and CEO, HopeSparks Family ServicesQuite simply, Danny and Amy’s teaching is the best marriage training we have ever experienced. It has transformed not only our own relationship, but also our parenting and family life, just ask our five kids! Superb, biblical, and highly practical, Danny and Amy live what they teach., Pastors of Hope Chapel, Bristol, United KingdomThe truths in this book were a life-saver for our marriage. I had it so backwards. Ministry came first and our marriage was subject to whatever ministry demanded. By putting top priority on our marriage, we experienced God’s favor in exponential ways. His and her things, which previously permeated our marriage, went out the window and true unity was born. This included ministry which took on a whole new and exciting look as we did it together. What an absolutely life-changing process this has been for our marriage., Executive Pastor, Harborview FellowshipHigh Octane Marriage will no doubt challenge the alignment of your marriage with the truth of God’s “original design” for marriage. Lived out, its twelve chapters will take your marriage on a ride you will never forget. Chapter 11, “Breaking the Power of the Secret”, was one of those chapters I thought was written about ME. How could Danny know all those things about me? You could overlay the chapter on my life before freedom and it would line up perfectly. I asked Danny if he had been living in my house. It was so Holy Spirit-directed!, USAI believe that the true value of anything is seen in its “before and after.” This is what my father said to me after I had learned and applied the truths in High Octane Marriage: “I don’t totally understand all of the things you’ve learned, but I do know this, you are a way better father and husband than you were before.”, USAGod’s ordained roles for marriage are the real deal! True joy came when we chose to live in alignment with His truth. Danny and Amy do an excellent job of portraying and teaching these truths. The simple yet powerful principles outlined in High Octane Marriage have helped us live out “life to the fullest” in our marriage. We’ll never be the same!, USAWhat makes High Octane Marriage different from other marriage books is the unique emphasis on repentance and forgiveness, so powerful! The power of forgiveness has softened my heart to receive my husband’s love and leadership. I trust Jesus to lead my husband and the stronghold of control has been broken in my life. Thank you, Jesus!, USAHigh Octane Marriage is both practical AND spiritually powerful. Previously, we had focused purely on practical tools within our marriage like effective communication and resolving conflict. But, as we discovered, the issues and tensions that constantly play out in a marriage are never fully resolved until we deconstruct the spiritual dynamics lying behind them. Learning to “live in the light” was such a great exercise. We brought things into the light which we hadn’t before, and that increased our intimacy as a result!, United Kingdom
We thought we had a really good relationship, but had no idea how good it COULD be until we applied the truths of this book to our marriage. We have discovered and embraced our God-given roles. We’ve learned to submit to one another and encourage one another into who the Lord created us to be. We are better parents. We have more joy, more love, and are more passionate about our marriage than ever, pretty awesome after 25 years of marriage!, USASo many Christian couples have never intimately prayed together. We were one of them until we learned the truths in this book. Now our marriage is transformed through the power of intimate prayer., USADanny and Amy’s approach to marriage is both inspirational and refreshing. They teach simple truths in a way that is clear, accessible, and incredibly powerful. We have seen our relationship transformed as a result., USAOur marriage is stronger and healthier since we have put these truths into practice . . ., USADanny and Amy’s teaching on submission by GOD’S design radically altered my understanding of my role as a wife. It has brought a peace to me and to my marriage that I didn’t know was possible., USAI have experienced huge freedom by coming to understand and embrace trust in the Lord toward my husband and his leadership, knowing it is God whom I am ultimately trusting. I have learned to pray for my husband rather than evaluate and try to mold him., USAGetting into alignment with God’s design for our marriage has completely transformed us as a couple and as a family. When conversations begin to turn negative and divisive, we now have the tools to stop the downward spiral and fix ourselves on the Lord. “Stop, pray, and get the issue out in front of you. Don’t let it divide you.” We have seen our marriage and those of our closest friends saved by the practical application of these truths., USA